Safety while exploring and/or participating in BDSM Dating. Prepping for unlikely event of a negative BDSM scenario.
So! Particular groups of thoughts, the actual thoughts that humans have can be gateways to the beginning of exploring bdsm dates (experiences involving bondage, discipline, dominance and submission, sadomasochism… and other related practices.). In this post we will explore what triggers these thought scenarios and what to do if you have in fact decided to pursue these experiences “real world”.
Having “mainstream” intimate thoughts and fantasies and having real life physical intimate experiences and playing out in the “real world” actual sexual fantasies that are “mainstream” is the environment in which many “BDSM” impulses express themselves. This is related to instinctual impulses that humans have. For example, one of our instincts or emotions is centred around the desire to control our environment (which has survival applications) is entirely about bringing order to for example the process of gathering edible resources which is a very powerful emotion within our psyche. Obstacles to that control can include other people, so the desire to control other people reduces their capacity to be obstacles. This can express itself within intimacy in several forms! I’m sure you can imagine!
However. What happens if you are innocently playing with these themes having BDSM experiences and perhaps enjoy being submissive but find yourself in an environment where someones desire to control has crossed over into acting out with too much force so that your biological integrity is compromised, so your life could be in danger or you are in danger of being locked up in a cellar and actually be in a “real Life” kidnapping situation. What if you are thinking are My BDSM Hookups safe? These are situations where consent has not been sought or given and the unwilling “kidnap victim” is in fact in a “real life” position of being kidnapped! This could have resulted from what seemed like a harmless exploration of “BDSM”.
The most important thing you can do if you are thinking about and/or “real life” exploring BDSM is to take prepping steps to accumulate the mental resources and take the physical “real life” precautions which save lives! No one is saying do not get involved. Get involved if you want to but please consider your safety! Think about what is happening, who are you meeting? Do you know this person at all? Do you know their real name? Do you know their history?
The number one precaution you can take is caution itself. Always having your safety checklist on hand and applying the principles of assessing, is it safe to meet this person? What are the signs to look for of things getting out of hand in a “BDSM” environment! Do you have a panic alert system in place while in “BDSM” environments. Is your handbag or bumbag enabled with things like maice for example! Taking simple precautions in advance and being prepped while in “real world” scenarios is simple planning and prepping for times when things go wrong, which can happen!
So prepping, taking precautions and being prepared!
Enjoy yourself, be responsible and think first!
Very best wishes
InTouch Rugby BDSM Editor.
