{"id":267670,"date":"2017-01-23T08:31:26","date_gmt":"2017-01-23T08:31:26","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.intouchrugby.com\/magazine\/?p=267670"},"modified":"2024-06-24T15:59:22","modified_gmt":"2024-06-24T14:59:22","slug":"strong-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.intouchrugby.com\/magazine\/strong-2\/","title":{"rendered":"Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants: Timeless wisdom on being a man By Elliott Katz (Three Things a Man Needs to be in a Successful Relationship)"},"content":{"rendered":"

Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants: <\/strong><\/p>\n

Timeless wisdom on being a man<\/strong><\/p>\n

By Elliott Katz<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Available on Amazon at :-\u00a0www.amazon.co.uk\/Being-Strong-Man-Woman-Wants\/dp\/0973695102<\/a><\/p>\n

Men — Here’s how to have a good\u00a0relationship<\/strong><\/p>\n

Marriage wellness is every couple’s goal. However many men today have heard confusing messages about their role as a man and when they follow these ideas, they find they don\u2019t work and often make things worse and they can’t understand why.<\/p>\n

How can a man regain a woman\u2019s love and respect in a relationship?<\/strong><\/p>\n

Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants: Timeless Wisdom on Being a Man<\/a> by Elliott Katz shares wisdom that works and is striking a chord around the world. The book has been translated into 24 languages by publishers in Europe, Asia, Latin America and Africa. \u201cThis book has saved our marriage,\u201d wrote a man in an Amazon.com<\/a>\u00a0customer review.<\/p>\n

Elliott Katz shares wisdom on how a man showing his share of leadership, making decisions and taking responsibility can regain a woman\u2019s love and respect. As one women wrote about the book’s insights: “If my husband of 38 years had understood these basic but crucial truths, our marriage would not have disintegrated.”<\/p>\n

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Being the Strong Man a Woman Wants: Timeless Wisdom on Being a Man<\/a>\u00a0is available as a paperback from\u00a0 Amazon\u00a0<\/a><\/p>\n

and as an ebook from\u00a0Amazon.co.uk: Kindle<\/a>,\u00a0Kobo, and\u00a0iBooks<\/a>. The paperback is also available in bookstores (distributed in the UK by Gazelle Book Services<\/a>).<\/p>\n

Three Things a Man Needs to be in a Successful Relationship<\/strong><\/p>\n

He\u2019s sensitive and tries hard to please the woman in his life, but when there’s a problem that needs to be dealt with, he seems oblivious. When she asks for input on a decision, he says, “It’s up to you.” He wants to be nice but doesn\u2019t understand why he\u2019s frustrating her.<\/p>\n

Elliott Katz understands why women today complain about the lack of quality men. “Today\u2019s men have received so many confusing messages on what a man should be, they\u2019re bewildered.\u201d<\/p>\n

“To avoid accusations of being controlling, many men have gone to the other extreme and avoid showing leadership and making decisions. The irony is that while men think they\u2019re being sensitive and non-controlling, the biggest complaint I hear from women is that men today don\u2019t show leadership, they don\u2019t make decisions and they won\u2019t take responsibility in the relationship,” says Katz, whose book Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants: Timeless wisdom on being a man<\/strong> is being translated into 24 languages in Europe, Asia and Latin America.<\/p>\n

After his own journey seeking insight on the man\u2019s role in a relationship, Katz found wise advice in the lessons that fathers and other older men taught younger men:<\/p>\n

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Show leadership<\/strong>
\nOne of women\u2019s biggest complaints is that men don\u2019t show their share of leadership in the relationship. When a man sees a situation that needs to be dealt with, he should step forward and handle it. People admire those who step forward to handle difficult situations \u2013 and don\u2019t wait for others to solve the problem.<\/p>\n

Make decisions
\n<\/strong>To avoid accusations of being controlling, a lot of men have gone to the other extreme \u2013 they leave most decisions to their wives. A man needs to make his share of decisions and take responsibility for the outcome. To many women, a man who avoids decisions is shirking his responsibilities. One of the meanings of the word “manly” is being decisive.\u00a0<\/strong><\/p>\n

Take responsibility
\n<\/strong>Take responsibility for improving the situation. Don\u2019t blame others. There is little sympathy for a man who blames a woman \u2013 even when he thinks she pushed him into it. People will say, “You\u2019re the man. Why did you let it go on?” One of the meanings of the word “husband” is someone who skillfully manages his household. Managers take responsibility. \u201cDivorced women have said that if their husbands had understood these crucial truths, their marriages would not have disintegrated,” Katz says. \u201cWomen give the book to men and say, \u2018This is what I have been trying to tell you all this time.\u2019\u201d They ask, \u201cHow do I get him to read the book and show more leadership?\u201d Katz advises:<\/p>\n

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Get him to lead \u2013 Let him decide <\/strong><\/p>\n

If he asks you to make a decision, such as choosing between Restaurant A or Restaurant B, simply say: “You decide.” Then don’t say anything else.<\/p>\n

\u201cWould you please handle it\u201d<\/strong><\/p>\n

Ask him to take charge of handling a problem, but don\u2019t tell him what to do. If he asks, say: \u201cYou decide. If you\u2019re not sure, do research. That\u2019s what I do.\u201d Avoid contradicting him unless what he wants to do is dangerous or damaging.<\/p>\n

Encourage him<\/strong><\/p>\n

Tell him he made a good decision and how you appreciate when he takes charge and handles a problem. If he made a mistake, tell him what you learned from it.<\/p>\n

Being the Strong Man A Woman Wants<\/strong> is available from Amazon.com and bookstores.<\/p>\n

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About Elliott Katz<\/strong><\/p>\n

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Elliott Katz is a professional speechwriter in Toronto and the author of seven nonfiction books and has done many radio and television interviews. Audiences find him informative and lively. He teaches the principles in this book to men and women, and speaks at seminars and conferences.<\/p>\n

After the end of a relationship, Elliott Katz sought to learn about being a man in a relationship. He found books on marriage and relationships said little to him. He found powerful timeless insights in the lessons that fathers and other older male role models taught younger men. People started seeking his advice and would say, \u201cWhy didn\u2019t someone tell me this before?\u201d<\/p>\n

Moving beyond the trendy ideas about a man\u2019s role \u2013 that just don\u2019t seem to work \u2013 Elliott Katz shares insights on being a man that have withstood the test of time. Interestingly, these insights are the traits that he heard many women complain were lacking in men today \u2013 showing leadership, making decisions and taking responsibility.<\/p>\n

Testimonials <\/strong><\/p>\n

“An insightful book about one of life’s most important goals: How a man can be a hero to his wife” — Shmuley Boteach, Host of Shalom in the Home and author of Kosher Sex <\/em><\/p>\n

“A cautionary tale, it cautions us to not throw out the baby with the bath water — to not toss out the man with the insensitivity.” — Warren Farrell Ph.D. Author of Why Men Are the Way They Are <\/em><\/p>\n

“Offers hope to men and women alike — A must read for every man who is ready to reclaim his masculine self and start becoming the kind of man that a woman really wants.” — Robert A. Glover Ph.D. Author of No More Mr. Nice Guy: A Proven Plan for Getting What You Want in Love, Sex and Life<\/em><\/p>\n

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“What type of man are strong women longing for? A strong man. In a very sensitive way, Elliott Katz teaches us a lot about this difficult matter. It is a lot of fun reading this book.” — Dr. Maja Storch, University of Zurich, Author of The Strong Woman’s Desire for the Strong Man <\/em><\/p>\n

“A must read for men who feel they have compromised themselves and aren’t getting the response they expected, and for women who wish they were in a relationship with a real man.” — Aryeh Pamensky, Author of How to Make A Good Marriage Great! <\/em><\/p>\n

Comments from readers <\/strong><\/p>\n

\u2013 Excellent! If someone would have shared this information with me years ago, it would have saved me from making wrong choices in a mate, divorce and years of raising children on my own with no positive male role model for them. Thank you so much for giving us this information. — Mary<\/p>\n

\u2013 I feel like I am a good husband, BUT…I can definitely take more responsibility, and show more leadership. — Robert<\/p>\n

\u2013 WOW! I want one of these, I’m glad that I’m not married yet so I can be on the lookout for one of these kind of men. Being in a partnership with a man like what was described would be absolutely awesome! — Kim<\/p>\n

\u2013 Kudos to Mr. Katz. If my husband of 38 years had understood these basic but crucial truths, my marriage would not have disintegrated. It is refreshing to see that there is a man out there who actually ‘gets it’ and doesn’t have any qualms about telling it like it is. Wish there were more of the likes of Mr. Katz. — Maria<\/p>\n

\u2013 I have the most wonderful husband but he is sometimes confused about what I want from him. This summed it all up, in short and not lengthy explanation \u2013 which I have come to realize is something my husband wants. — Bridgette<\/p>\n

\u2013 I always wonder whether what I feel regarding my husband is wrong, but after I read this, it expresses my feelings exactly. Thanks — Sue<\/p>\n

\u2013 This is what I was looking for in my efforts to be a better man. It could not have been written better. All men should read this. — Ralph<\/p>\n

\u2013 This really tells it like it is. I’m glad someone is finally speaking out. My husband is now reading the book. Thanks. — Ann<\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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